Really, can anyone push your buttons like one of your family members? There’s at least one in every family! So, you can’t control how he/she acts but you can control how you respond. Picture putting him through the wood chipper, smile, and move on. Don’t engage, which I know is easier said then done. But you are the only one who can break whatever pattern is going on.
Money is a tough one for a lot of us. We want to do the best for those we love and get them the greatest gifts. In this case, you can be creative and know that what’s ultimately valued is time spent with you. That may sound hokey but in a year or two is that great gift still in use? And think about the things you remember most about the holidays. I bet it’s the people and activities, not the gifts.
Food is something I addressed in last week’s blog. Do eat some of the foods you love, you’re going to be resentful otherwise. Don’t keep that mental calorie list so that you’re sabotaging your own enjoyment. Seriously – I know how miserable that one is. So worried about what I could or couldn’t eat that I didn’t enjoy the day.
Food pushers, on the other hand, can be neutralized in a friendly way. Flattery on the food and how full you are from enjoying yourself is a nice polite one. A smile and a little zinger could help as well. I was told by someone, who shall remain nameless, “you’re always eating that healthy stuff, it’s annoying.” I tend to have karate mouth and popped out with, “I didn’t realize you were keeping such close track of my meals.” It worked and got a laugh.
As for time and trying to fit it all in: give yourself a break. Say no when you can, take short cuts and ask for help. It could very well be that the only one keeping track of what’s “perfect” is you. Remember your reality is self-created, those you love do not necessarily share the same vision.
Have a fantastic holiday.
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