Self-Care – Selfish or Necessary?

i_july_photo_1This topic has been popping up all over lately. Last night in my networking meeting we talked about adding self-care in as part of spring cleaning. Some thought it was selfish but in a good way and others thought it was nice but never added it in.

I don’t think it’s selfish, I think it is necessary to recharge your batteries. You cannot take care of others if you are run down. The airlines all tell us put your own oxygen mask on before helping those with you. (now if they could only do something about their food)…

What are some ways you can add self-care in? Think about what nurtures you.

If you have let your hobbies slide try picking one or two back up. Don’t like it? Try something else. What excited you as a child? What could you spend all day doing? Google the older woman dancing on You Tube – it’s pretty funny to see what she can do all day.

A good book and a cup of tea can be a great pick me up.

Hot soup on a cold day is soothing and soul satisfying.

Meditation – can be a traditional type, a walking meditation, a guided visualization or just letting your mind empty for a few minutes.

Get some exercise: go for walk, do yoga, dance, or whatever makes you smile.

Play with a child, blow bubbles, swing on the swings, skip, or go down the slide. Anything to bring out your playful side. I like to do the hopscotch boards when I see them.

Declutter your space or make a little area for yourself in your house. Just a spot where you can go, breathe, and collect yourself for a while. It can be as simple as a shelf or small table where you put some things that make you happy or think.

Buy yourself some flowers, even one perfect flower in vase can brighten up your space.

Sing, paint, write poetry, sculpt with clay, knit – it doesn’t have to perfect. It doesn’t even have to be good if you enjoy it, do it.

Listen to music, watch a funny movie, or attend a workshop on something you’re interested in.

I like to go to my happy place. It’s my form of guided visualization: I’m on the beach. I can feel the sun on my body, the warm sand beneath me, and the light breeze that’s blowing. I stretch to get a bit more comfortable. I can smell the ocean and the tang of coconut from the sunblock. I hear the waves and the gulls. I taste the saltiness of the air and the bite of the iced tea that I’ve brought along. I see the blue water and the colorful umbrellas. Looking into the horizon I can see the dolphins going past. Life is good and I am relaxed.

What do you do to recharge? I’d love to hear your tips.

Do you feel like your life is an endless roller-coaster? Do you want to get off and take some time for yourself but aren’t sure how? Send me an email,, and we can set up a 30 minute strategy session to help get you started.