Several years ago I was given a large jar of roasted cashews and I loved them. So delicious and I couldn’t stop at the serving portion. I kept eating them. I was trying to lose weight, I felt defeated and powerless. Seriously, I was waking up in the middle of the night crying about my size. Yet I was eating cashews like I’d never have them again. What the hell was wrong with me?
I made my husband empty the nuts into the garbage. I couldn’t bring myself to do it but I knew if they were tossed out I would not eat them. I know I’m not the only one. I remember an episode of Sex In the City with Miranda eating cake that she had tossed into the garbage, calling up Carrie and saying she needed to be checked into the Betty Crocker Clinic. It was funny but it hit uncomfortably close to home.
There are a bunch of reasons why I wasn’t able to throw the nuts out. I grew up hearing you didn’t waste food, people in x country were starving, and you should have self-control. Any of those sound familiar? Here’s the truth: all food turns to waste one way or another (think about it), your serving of food is not going to eradicate hunger in any other country, and it’s not about self-control.
Diets are often about denial and punishment. I believe that you can have an eating plan that empowers you to have the tools you need to make better choices. So that you aren’t waking up in the middle of the night crying because you are ashamed, your clothes don’t fit, and feel you are powerless around food.
It’s about planning and feeling satisfied, not self-control. Think of a really great meal that you enjoyed. Amazing food, a great glass of wine and entertaining company. Chances are you were not in the kitchen later that evening eating more food. You were happy, satisfied and you carry that memory with you still.
That is how you deserve to live. Every day.
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